There is only one thing that stops you making a significant change in your life. You. There is nowhere else to lay blame or fault. If you aren’t living the life you want, do something about it. Don’t do nothing. That is the absolute worst thing you could do. A fat old nothing. I know, I’ve been there.
It’s totally possible to sit around feeling sorry for yourself, going over and over all the “what ifs” and stay firmly stuck in what a wise friend once called the crazy-thought loop. You can turn to chocolate, wine or a good TV series. And the next day will roll around and there you will be, in exactly the same place as the day before.
Or… or you can tell yourself that enough is enough and you can do something about it. You can take action. Action is exciting, terrifying and hopeful. It can be a huge death-defying leap or it can be a tiny step like the tentative first step of a baby starting its journey as a toddler. Action is beautiful because action leads to more action, just as one step leads to another, and another and another. And before you know it you’re not in the same place, you’ve changed direction and you’re on your way. You may not know the destination yet, and that’s OK. Sometimes the destination won’t make itself clear until we’ve started out. And we need to start.
Too often we stop ourselves from taking action because we make it too big. We make it about the huge leap and not the baby step. So my advice to you is to keep it small. Find one thing that you want to do differently today, just one thing. Maybe you’ll take a different route to your workplace, or drink a different kind of coffee, listen to a new artist, make a call you’ve been putting off. What it is doesn’t matter as much as doing it. Whatever change you want to make, start somewhere. Keep it small. Baby steps. You’ve got this.