7-day Experiments Challenge

I choose to run little experiments regularly. Why? Because I know if I don’t it’s only a matter of time until I’m stuck in my comfort zone and that usually means playing smaller and safer over and over again. I’m NOT anti-comfort!  It took what felt like forever to choose our sofa because comfort was SO important. I only choose duvets that’s are super soft and comfy. Comfort is great in its place. As a leader I know if I’m not expanding beyond my comfort zone, I am stagnating and it becomes harder and harder to go beyond it to where the possibilities are MUCH more exciting. But they feel so far away – and almost impossibly far if I don’t stretch and expand what IS possible regularly.

Experiments are great! You don’t have to do it forever. You can set it up, do it, learn from it and then do something else or step up from the last one. Either way you’ve learned something new, you’ve gained new insights and the next step is a little less far away.

Want to step into expanding your tolerance for flexibility and adaptability as a leader? 

Join me on my free 7-day Experiments Challenge! 

We begin on Thursday 7th July.

You commit to taking action. I’ll commit to leading and facilitating you through your experiments.

Want to stretch and grow? Then come and PLAY!!! 

If you’re IN, say ‘YES EXPERIMENTS!’ here and I’ll send you the details.

If you’re not ready for this but you’d like to get some inspiration and advance notice of future events, or want help with a pressing career challenge for yourself, get in touch here and I’ll add you to the list for my future newsletter, or we can arrange a time to talk.

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PS I experimented this week by doing an exploration of my business with sheets of paper all over the floor. It’s a powerful experiment – it’s more fun and I’ve noticed it’s changing the way I think about it. Curious!

I planned to do this earlier during the day but I had a small person home feeling poorly. Sometimes business life as a parent is not sexy – and it doesn’t mean it can’t be fun!  (I also deliberately chose to read a fun book first because I wanted and needed the wind down before I began, and I love having that level of flexibility).

What’s your nugget of gold?

I don’t often share quotes because so many people do, and I’m not really one for following the herd. 😉 I do love a good quote though and sometimes they can make the difference between getting stuck in negative thoughts and taking action, even if that’s choosing a different way of thinking. (Yes, that’s a thing – I partner with my clients to help them do that, and it’s hugely impactful).

This is a quote I came across right back when I was first pondering the idea of changing careers. I had no fully formed ideas at the time. I read this quote and my thoughts went something like:

‘Woah! You mean I get to come alive and be ME? Really me? I can stop fitting in with what’s expected and be me being that big, playful version of me who feels fully alive???!!’

It’s not too strong to say it had a HUGE impact on me. Its impact has never left me.

I printed it out and stuck it onto a picture from a magazine (it might have been a Lonely Planet or National Geographic one, I can’t remember) and stuck both in a scrapbook I’d created of images and phrases that inspired me, intrigued me or made me smile. And then I started to take actions, run little experiments and explore more than I had before. I am SO pleased I did. 🤩

Of course the quote didn’t do all that. I did. What it DID do was provide me with a nugget of gold at EXACTLY the right time. A shot of inspiration that launched me off in a new direction.

I’d love to know what’s your favourite quote? It can be inspiring or funny or just something that you like for whatever reason. Do share it – you never know who might need it!! (And it’s ok to share your quote and not respond to the question below 👇 !!)

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What is it you do? I get asked it a lot because it’s hard to describe. If you’re curious what it is I do and how I support people to find fulfilling work, create fulfilling lives and, yes, ‘come alive’, drop me a line and we’ll arrange a time for you to have an experience of coaching with me. At no charge.

I’m opening a handful of slots in September for explorers like you.

How To Create Your Own Path For Your Life and Career (The Radical Way)

‘To set my coordinates’ – my client, when asked what had been valuable in our time together today.

I never used to set any coordinates (usually I sort of fell into opportunities) or if I did set them they were often set by tradition or expectation because it’s ‘what everyone does’. 

I’ve always fought against traditional expectations. 😂

WHY??

My favourite question. My English literature teacher at A level was not happy by my continual questioning of why her interpretation had to be THE interpretation.

Why does it have to be that way?

In life, in career it often doesn’t. It’s expected that it will be, and that’s all.  Expected.

I don’t want to live my life by someone else’s expectations of what I’m going to do next. I don’t want to make my life small because tradition says that’s what you do. I don’t want to make choices that aren’t aligned with what I really want or who I really am because someone else says that’s not how it’s done.

Nope. 

I want to align with my own coordinates and my own choices. 

It’s not always comfortable and it can sometimes feel lonely, especially if you don’t have the support of others on the journey. And it is SO worth it to create your own path!!  It’s why I’ve found it so incredibly helpful to work with various different coaches over the last few years to support me in setting and aligning my own coordinates to make the choices I want to make for me, for my family, and for our future. It’s not selfish, it’s necessary to step out into the big beyond.

Set your coordinates.

And go…!!

What It Takes To Be The Queen of Your Life

This time yesterday I was exhausted, fraught and watching my energy drain away. Because I was tired and in need of some FUN as much as I needed some sleep.

I had both. Not as much as I would like in an ideal world – and a boost of it. I shut off the energy drains. Well, taking those actions of interacting with other people in a way that was fun and meaningful, and getting more sleep, shut off those energy drains.

So much more feels possible today because I took the decisions that felt least comfortable yesterday. I didn’t ‘push’ through because that wouldn’t help either. I gently accepted what either had to be or what I needed and then brought me and all my messiness of tiredness and uncertainty and playful (low) energy to the table. 

I brought all of me, in that moment and the next and the next. 

I didn’t try to be someone I wasn’t in that moment. I didn’t give up and hide in a hole. I was, as I was, with all the messy feelings I had and I showed up anyway. 

I showed up anyway.

And then I took care of what I thought I needed most (it turned out to be what I also needed, rather than most) and packed myself off to bed with a gentle wind-down routine. 

I didn’t push.

I didn’t give up.

I showed up.

I was me in that moment.

I took care of my needs. 

I woke up brighter, more energised and clearer on what I need and want to focus my energy on.

That’s self-leadership. That’s being the Queen of my own life.

And it’s goooooood 😉.

How Are Your Stories Draining Your Energy?

Brains are funny things.

I spent a chunk of today feeling totally exhausted and not at all looking forward to co-facilitating a group coaching call this evening. I mean really, REALLY not wanting to do it. I wanted to go to bed.

Except it turns out I didn’t 😂.

Because when I got to the call I burst into life. Friggin loved it!  All those faces, all those people to support and shine a light on their brilliance and how they already have what they need if only they lean into it. I remember why I do this work – because I LOVE it and I thrive on it. It’s sooo energising (even when I’m tired). 

I made up a story about the call that wasn’t at all how it was going to be or turned out to be. I wasted so much energy on feeling meh about it, and it was FUN!!!  😂 I know this and I see this – and I don’t always catch myself letting my energy drain away down the plug hole. Today I missed it and off went my energy…     And tomorrow is another day to slow down and notice when I’m creating a story that doesn’t serve me instead of watching my energy wander off!