How Are Your Stories Draining Your Energy?

Brains are funny things.

I spent a chunk of today feeling totally exhausted and not at all looking forward to co-facilitating a group coaching call this evening. I mean really, REALLY not wanting to do it. I wanted to go to bed.

Except it turns out I didn’t 😂.

Because when I got to the call I burst into life. Friggin loved it!  All those faces, all those people to support and shine a light on their brilliance and how they already have what they need if only they lean into it. I remember why I do this work – because I LOVE it and I thrive on it. It’s sooo energising (even when I’m tired). 

I made up a story about the call that wasn’t at all how it was going to be or turned out to be. I wasted so much energy on feeling meh about it, and it was FUN!!!  😂 I know this and I see this – and I don’t always catch myself letting my energy drain away down the plug hole. Today I missed it and off went my energy…     And tomorrow is another day to slow down and notice when I’m creating a story that doesn’t serve me instead of watching my energy wander off! 

What is it that makes you?

I have many faces.

My facilitator, coach, leader ‘work’ face.

My crazy play ‘go through the fear’ face.

My adventure face.

My performer face.

All of them are me, and there are more! 

I’m on a mission to bring them together as one unique thing. I don’t know what it looks like. I don’t even have the foggiest idea how…yet 😂. What I know is that all those parts of me together are what make me ME and that I am, in my own way, unique.

All the answers would be brilliant…. And boring!! Where’s the fun in knowing how it all works out before you begin?! 

I’m not here to be you. I’m here to be ME. Yes, in CAPITALS!!!

What about you…?? 😉

Choice, it’s simples.

One of my clients had a transformative moment in our conversation today.

What have you learned?

‘The choice is mine.’

Yes, yes, YES!!! 🙌🔥

The joy in her face was palpable. Her eyes were shining with a totally beautiful energy. The energy of self-belief, her own amazing power and all the possibilities that owning who she really is brings alive.

It wasn’t the fact that she HAS a choice. She always had that available to her. Today she felt it, she experienced it, she knew it deep inside. And now she WANTS more of that.

It’s an absolute honour to watch her rise in her power 🔥😄.

You might not be ready for transformation. Last year she wasn’t either. That’s ok. When you’re ready, we should talk.

If you are not ready, and you have a hunch someone you know is, I’d love it if you’d share this, or another post of mine you think might support them in some way, and let them know I am always happy to connect and talk.

The choice is yours.

It always has been. It always will be.

Simples. 😉

What to do when your actions don’t match your choices

You know what’s always going to stop your transformation into the person you want to be with the fulfilling work and life you want?

Telling yourself the story that it’s all or nothing.

Loosen up a little. Life isn’t all or nothing.

You can be all in AND you can have days when you don’t do what you wanted. Days when you forget to be the person you are becoming. Days when you don’t go for that run, make that call, write that paragraph, wear the red jumper, experiment with that idea, do your course work, try something new. You can have days like that because you WILL have days like that because you are in transition between the way you used to think and behave and be, and the way the you you’re becoming thinks and behaves and is.

Transition can feel messy. You might make mistakes, you might not be or do what you know you wanted to do for all kinds of reasons. When that happens you have a choice: give up (staying stuck in ‘all or nothing’ thinking) or recommit and take one small step further through your time of transition.

Recommitting to your choice to be all in is much more powerful than ‘all or nothing’ because it’s a sustainable way of moving forward through those rocky, uncertain times of becoming.

Each day, recommit to choosing what is in service of future you. Because future you is the result of your choices TODAY.


Self-care IS radical leadership

What did self-care look like this month?

It looked like dealing with the post-Christmas and Covid piles of empty bags and boxes, clearing out the old to make way for the beautiful new gifts we’d received, packing things away and recycling others in various ways, and taking time out to rest before the school run. It looked like sitting down to play and read and rest. It looked like keeping the laptop off for the whole day.

A few months ago I would have struggled with a big burden of guilt feeling like I ‘should’ have been working while small was at school. I should have been doing, doing, doing on the business, on learning, on catching up on course work.

The truth is that those feelings cropped up, of course – Wonder Woman I am not, and I led myself THROUGH them. I received them, felt the guilt and let those feelings exist, no fighting. Fighting takes way too much energy, and the last thing I need is a power drain – that’s what I’m plugging by clearing the mess! 😂 Then I recommitted to my choice to tackle the mess I was tolerating because I know for sure not doing so will hold me back as I evolve and grow into my next level of who I AM and BE. It will sap my energy and fester into an attitude of coasting to get by and lack of focus. I know this because I have been there before.

I chose a different experience.

I chose self-care.

Self-care isn’t all massages, baths, candles and a mani. Sure, it can be, and It also looks like replenishing energy by clearing away energy drains, getting rid of what I’m tolerating in my life, and going into the big wide world and having fun playing!!

Is 2022 the year you choose to lead yourself through with self-care…?


If you want to make this year the year you finally take a radical step forward in your self-leadership and ability to make choices that serve YOU and who you know you can BECOME, let’s talk.