How the way you think is getting in your way

‘Because you failed, perhaps many times, in a certain situation, this does not mean that you must be resigned to defeat. It does not mean that victory was not very close…

Any area of compromise, or of resignation to defeat, weakens the whole. See how many areas of your life have become, already, the scene of new reactions, new gains… Let this encourage you…’

This passage spoke to me so much last night. It echoed my mentor’s message on aligning my thoughts and expectations with what I WANT to happen and not with my fears.

What you focus on grows.

Expect failure and failure is assured. Expect possibility and opportunities and that’s what you’ll get!!

Resignation of defeat spreads. It’s like when a plant or a tree is diseased. You notice a small part that’s not right and suddenly the whole plant is infected. And I’ve seen the same in my thinking too.

Especially in the midst of the various Covid lockdowns over the last couple of years. And it’s also been that way for years.

I started thinking about how I wasn’t getting where I wanted to and that it just wasn’t working. I focussed on the thoughts of failing, of defeat.

And because I didn’t accept my part in choosing my thoughts (like someone else was choosing them for me 🤣), I let them affect the way I thought about other things too until I’d eventually dug myself a misery pit to wallow in. It’s about as fun as it sounds!! 😂

What’s really annoying is half the time I never used to realise I was doing it!!

I’d done it for so long that I couldn’t even see it. It took my mentors and coaches listening to what fell out my mouth to catch it.

And call it out.


And again.

And again.

And one day the penny started to drop. Slowly.

It dropped intellectually about nine months ago, even though I’d read a few books about it a few years ago. But it has only just started to become something I’m actively changing.

Read it.
Learn it.
Know it.
Be it.

Noticing it is the beginning of the battle. Noticing it means I get to choose to continue thinking negatively or move to thinking in ways that are helpful. (Really I’ve always had the choice but not knowing it makes it harder to do it).

It’s time to BE!



Focus on the gains and the opportunities.


(Quote by John Woolley)

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